... But we aren't romantic! (AKA the most common thing clients confess to me)
I have a confession to make- I'm not a romantic or even emotional person. In personality tests, I'm always the hyper-logical Type A personality--the disciplinarian, the most likely to be a cult leader (I swear I'm not one, though), the one who overthinks the biggest overthinkers. I'm never deemed a romantic or a feeler.
Is that surprising? I'm always nervous to say that because a) I don't want people to think I'm a sociopath and b) based on the type of work I do, I sometimes feel like people will think I'm a poser--and (hopefully) obviously, neither of these are true.
However, after years of working with couples to create really epic romantic and intimate photos, I feel like I have to come clean. Because the biggest thing clients confess to me prior to their session is that they just aren't that romantic... They aren't so emotionally connected as the couples in the photos I showcase. They don't think they'll fit in. The photos are great and beautiful and so romantic but they just don't think they will work for them.
I get it. I really, really get it. Very few people go through their relationship looking or acting like this. These moments are usually very private. For some, this kind of intimacy is not as common as it once was (hey, parenthood is HARRRRD). But most people don't usually feel like they belong on the cover of a romance novel or have a lovestory on par with The Notebook (making out in the rain... who even has time for that anymore?).
TRUST ME. I hear you. I hear you. I get it. You, in the every day humdrum of your life, the one you live with all your children (human or furry), the bills piling up, the laundry taking over the whole house, the bat-shit crazy work hours, the debilitating morning sickness, with the impending wedding, don't feel romantic. Some days, honestly, you don't feel in love or like epic lovers. Some days you feel like roommates who spend five minutes a day interacting.
You don't feel romantic.
I get it.
Life is crazy and love is hard.
But let me tell you a secret.
You still have it. You're still romantic. You're still very emotionally connected to your significant other.
You just need the time and space to harness that passion.
This is one of my favorite parts of what I do (especially as someone who, 90% of the time, is not a romantic person).
I love giving people the opportunity to reconnect with each other. To focus on each other. To look into each other's eyes. To feel the tingles that come from his hand grazing your skin. To feel the hairs stand up on your neck as she whispers in your ear.
One of the best things about specializing in this very specific genre of couples photography is that I know how to help you connect. I know how to get epically romantic photos of you, to capture those feelings that ARE there, even if you don't show them everyday.
Really, truly, most of my clients come to their session walking next to each other at a respectable distance. But they nearly always leave wrapped up in each other's arm, giggling, and flirting like they just got back from their honeymoon. seriously.
You may think you aren't romantic, but I promise, you are!